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DEAR ABBY: Two years ago I met a wonderful man online. He is from Wales in the UK. He’s 21 years younger than me, so naturally I’m cautious about how our relationship will last over the years. (He’s 42; I’m 63.) He says I’m everything he’s dreamed of, and more. He is non-judgmental, kind, gentle, and very spiritual. His intelligence amazes me. I love and respect him more than anyone I have ever known. Is it possible to have a lasting relationship when there is this kind of age difference? – FOUND Mr. MAGNIFICENT
DEAR FOUND: It’s possible, but it’s unusual. If you only know this person online, I recommend getting to know them, their family and friends IN PERSON before making any formal commitments. I say this because he may not be who he claims to be, and women like you have been exploited. This man may be married. For this reason, you should never send him money, even if it is only a “temporary loan”.
DEAR ABBY: My sister is the worship leader at our church, but sometimes I replace her. When I do, I get a lot of compliments in the form of a comparison between the two of us. For example, “Your sister is great, but I like it better when you sing. It makes me uncomfortable because I want us both to be successful in life. I don’t want to outdo my sister. How can I fix this when it happens without shaming the person? – EMBEDDED IN AURORA
DEAR EMBARRATED: List the things your sister does better than you as a worship leader. Then respond to the compliment by saying, “Thanks for the kind words, but my sister is better than me at …”, and mention several.
DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 22 years but have a strong affection for my best male friend, “Ryder”. He is extremely gentle on the eyes, so much so that even strangers comment on how beautiful he is. Sometimes we take a nap together and take turns being the big spoon. Every now and then he’ll put his tongue in my ear, and I think that’s cute. My husband is okay with that and shows no signs of jealousy. I’m pretty sure my feelings are mutual because when Ryder looks at me with those big brown eyes, it’s like he’s shooting love daggers at me, and he winks at me often.
Next week my husband and I are having eye exams. Would it be too much to ask him to get some assorted colored lenses for our German Shepherd? – DIANA IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR DIANA: That’s a good doggone question. Since your husband didn’t object to the spooning and licking, I’m sure he would give you some fur.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or PO Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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