Interview of Quique Pesoa with Tanu, his trans son: “We could tell what happened with Catalina and open the subject”

The renowned journalist Quique Pesoa used his radio space to interview Tanu, his trans son who lives in Italy. In an intimate conversation, the young man who is also a columnist for his father’s show, The distraction, He shared how his family had helped him through the transition and was grateful that he grew up in a home where there was freedom.

“It’s difficult with me. My case is difficult so my transition was difficult. At first a lot of people think overnight their gender changes and they get carried away and I had this stereotypical image in my head of the lesbian, tomboy and that scared me, that terrified me because I didn’t never been like this. I have been feminine since I was a child, I wear dresses, I put on make-up, the opposite ”, began by recounting Tanu, who has lived in Bologna for over a year and is in a relationship with a young Italian that his father presents. as “your son-in-law”.

The reporter continued to investigate his son’s life, as if it were an interview with a stranger:

– Was it forced or did you feel like a girl and you were playing thanks to a warrant? Have you been through it?

– No, I say when I have to talk about it I was a happy woman for my first 17 years and I identified with women’s things in quotes and I also played with cars, at home they never forced me to do things, “talk lower”, “put on a dress”, I don’t I didn’t feel forced femininity, I saw both things and I chose it And that line of femininity that I’ve always had didn’t stop me from starting to feel like a man, a very feminine man and it was a kick in the balls that I didn’t have, I thought ‘I have a problem, a personality disorder’.

– When does the transition with pain and suffering appear?

– Yes, and absolute denial. I’m not a boy, it can’t be and if it does it’s a few months, a phase, a mambo, quarantine, it couldn’t be, I absolutely denied it for a year, saying that It couldn’t be I’m not the stereotype of a trans man who cast society that his teenage years are half tomboy, it does exist but it’s not absolute reality.

– How long did it take for you to start feeling slightly happy?

– It was months and months of therapy and denial and suffering, I had very suicidal, hard times that you think had nothing to do with their sexuality, that was the problem, I didn’t was not confused, I still think I like everything, I don’t like the person for his gender but for his person, I fell in love with men, women, people who do not identify with either of the two genres.

– In my memories, at home from your birth until you were 17 when you went to Europe and you make your life … I think the trip must have lessened the suffering of this transsexual, it is said like that?

– You can say it as you want, there are people who do not feel comfortable with the word transsexuality. My friends present me as trans, that’s okay with me.

– In this kind of freedom that we have always given you, or that we believe we have given you, I was able to walk past your room and find you playing with a girl your age in bed in kissing, and that’s it, that from that moment on you loved the Tyrians and the Trojans …

—Yes, I brought friends and girlfriends home, serious relationships and no, everyone was always welcome at my house, my first relationship with a woman, at fifteen I brought her home, and before with a man too, there was never a problem to think “If I love a woman, my parents will kill me.” I had the chance and the privilege to grow up in a family that never set limits on me.

– Transsexuality would be to change sex, which is not your case, but you like men and women, how is it?

– Gender and sexuality are two things that do not go together. There are days when I think about hormone therapy and days when I don’t think about it, when I trust my sex, a man. It’s hard to understand because I keep doing the things I used to do, I changed my gender, but I’m the same.

To close the presentation, the journalist joked: “Dirty kid, aren’t you ashamed to talk about it with your dad? Then Tanu explained why he suggested to his father to make such a note: “Debe haber alguien que te escucha y me escucha, y se acuerda de Catalina, la nenita rubia, chiquita y estuve en tu programa y thought that ya que lo aceptamos en la familia y ahora es Tanu, podíamos contar qué pasó con Catalina, shelter y the theme”.

Quique thanked him and made it clear that his testimony was not only important to the trans community but to all who listened to him. “I love you daddy,” Tanu said goodbye, but the driver didn’t let her pass and asked her to greet him like they do in private. “i love you guacho”, Ended the family conversation, which was heard by thousands of people.

Here, Quique Pesoa’s full interview with his son:

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