“I have changed my sex, but I am the same”

Quique Pesoa shares a lot of things with his son Tanu, but mostly understanding things. This is what they both expressed in a moving interview that the 70-year-old journalist did to the transgender youth on his radio show.

“I suggested that we do this because I thought there must be someone who remembers Catalina, and since we all accepted this in the family and changed the pronoun and called me ‘the Tanu “, it was good to have this conversation, because it’s a good time for the trans community“the young man who lives in Bologna, Italy explained to the audience.

And he stressed that “the most important thing is make the trans person feel like their sex is worth it”.

From Europe, Tanu is a columnist for El déconcert, his father’s program on National Radio, and this is where the dialogue took place.

“My case is particularly very difficult, which is why my transition was very difficult at the beginning. A lot of trans people I know start the transition and overnight they start thinking “hey, gender changes” and they get carried away. I had a lot of this stereotypical image that they put in our heads, of the tomboy, of lesbians. And it scared me, it terrified me, because I’ve never been like that. I have been very feminine since I was little, wearing dresses and makeup, ”her story began.

Tanu made his change at 17. Before it was “woman” and “happy” in a house that contained it.

“I was a woman for the first 17 years of my life and I was happy, I identified with the things of women in quotes, those things that are stereotypical, that are warrants, but I also played with cars. . At home, they never forced me to do things, never They told me ‘put on a dress’, they never told me ‘speak more quietly’. I never felt a forced femininity, I chose it. I saw both and I chose, ”he said.

However, the change was not easy: “This line of femininity that I had so strong never stopped me from starting to feel like a man, from starting to feel like a very feminine man, and that. it was a kick in the balls that I didn’t. I started to think I had a problem, a personality disorder. “

“I spent a year of my transition absolutely denying it. I’m not the stereotype of a trans man that society throws at me. It went on for months and months, and months, and months of therapy, a lot of denial and a lot of pain. I had very suicidal moments, very hard moments in which we say to ourselves ‘it has nothing to do with my sexuality’ “, he recalled the most difficult part of his story.

But there is something very clear: “I have changed my sex, but I am the same”.

At the moment, Tanu has two partners, and “they both know about the situation.” They are Antonio and Céline.

“Antonio is a cisgender man, which means that he was born a man but that he is more interested in the person than in the sex. When he met me he knew I was trans. We have a very beautiful relationship based on trust and love. It makes me feel very comfortable and a lot safer than I am, ”he described one of Quique’s“ yernes ”.

Then he explained how he shares his love: “At the same time, I’m dating Celine. For both of us, I’m a boy. I experience both relationships in a different way and that’s where I really realize that , in my case, gender and sexuality do not go hand in hand”.

These details are what make Quique reflect that “each case is absolutely unique and unclassifiable, each has his own “.

“I like the concept of non-binary because that’s what became clearer to me, ”said Quique, who has surely had the most special and touching interview of his professional life.

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