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What sex education have we had? Do I know my body? How is my sexual self-esteem? How do I deal with the questions of children and adolescents? What will my sexuality be like at the next stage of life? Why is it difficult to use a condom? Psychoanalyst Clara Attardo takes the glove and does not answer, but throws the questions in the air so that we start questioning ourselves about our sexuality and taking ESI courses, because about global sex education we know little, she said, although we’ve had sex our entire lives. Additionally, part of the assumption that one of the difficulties in implementing CSE is that as adults we have not worked on our sexuality.

Attardo is a psychologist (UBA), Magister in Gender, Society and Politics (FLACSO), specializing in gender and health promotion policies. In addition, she is a popular educator and author of the book The kind of politics. The voices of women in public policy, stories of an experience. For twenty years, she has been working in the field of comprehensive sexuality education, even before the law, and in February she launched the “Complete Seminar on Adult Sexuality Education: Disarming Taboos to Create Freedoms” with very good repercussions. “They are women, without a doubt, and I’m not surprised,” he says. “Because part of the ‘stagnant revolution’ is that of women’s sexual freedom; we are always occupied by sacrifice and pain, the pleasure is not yet ours and we know it; and we want to make the revolution of enjoyment once and for all ”.

– Sex education for adults? Because?

-Surge of 20 years of work experience at ESI. Schools have desperately requested workshops for adolescents. I used to lecture in waiting rooms of health centers and hospitals on sexual health, gender, contraceptive methods, but the demand was from nervous adults for adolescents to are informed. Over the years, I have seen that in these interviews, the teachers, the parents, who accompanied them “covered their ears” in the corners, watched with curiosity; And then the demands of adults started to emerge, and I thought to myself, there is a central point, where we don’t look: us adults. After working on the incorporation of CSE in institutions, I realized that it was difficult to work on it not only because of the “lack of training” of teachers, professionals, families, not only in because of religious or ideological barriers, but also because talking about sexuality opens your sexuality to the cute and the other. It is also linked to the sexual violence suffered; with non-pleasure, with unanswered questions.

-What are the main difficulties you encounter?

-I find speaking difficulties, moral judgments about sexuality even in “cool” people that you would be surprised if they could make value judgments about it. In my seminar, I ask what sex education do you have? The answers are: Johnson and Johnson’s speeches at school; porn, friends, late night I-Sat, leftovers, and already a couple. In this context, how do you face the questions of the new generations? I promote questions, not just information also that we ask ourselves questions. Women, in this case mainly cis, live it with enthusiasm, with envy, they want their own WISE. Men must dare to connect with their whole body as erogenous, beyond the penis (the cis). Connect with desire and listen to the demand of others in bed; And the fact that the other knows sex can be an affront. The men work at the same time. It seems central to the presence of sexual diversity in the seminar, to debinarize the ESI, and to connect with the various sexual experiences, the emerging pleasures. Let’s see that we are not so biologically binary, let’s see Brigitte Paptiste (trans Colombian biologist), Let’s go back to Kinsey who said that there is a lot of gray between homosexuality and heterosexuality. I mean, let’s talk without binaries, openly, with confidentiality, trust and respect. Welcome the ethics of consent and mutual aid. Welcome the elimination of silenced violence and sexual abuse.

-Why do you say this is really the tip of the iceberg?