Four signs that your emotional intelligence is high

Emotional Intelligence (IE) can mean the difference between socially acceptable behavior and a displaced place in a given social situation.

In other words, it can mean the difference between a good and a social dysfunction. Although most people have heard of employment insurance, few know how to detect it, either in themselves or in others.

Emotional intelligence is essentially the ability to perceive, express, understand and manage emotions. And it's important because the more we understand these aspects of ourselves, the better our mental health and social development will be.

You may think that you are one of those people who can develop these qualities without becoming aware of them. Or you may already know, or not yet, that you need to develop these skills.

In any case, if you improve your IE, you will notice that it will have been very helpful to do it in different types of circumstances, whether at work, at home, at school or even when you are dating friends.

1. Think about your reactions

In some circumstances, such as a discrepancy that ends with an argument, employment insurance can make the difference between different reactions: the best would be to try not to take it personally, and the bad would be to let go of anger and disrespect your interlocutor.

Emotions may contain information useful for personal and social functioning, but they can sometimes overwhelm us and make us act in ways that we regret later.

People who lack emotional intelligence rarely think well in situations such as the one described and are more likely to react without giving themselves the necessary time to weigh the pros and cons of how to handle this situation.

People who are less able to regulate their negative feelings are also more likely to have difficulty functioning socially, which can exacerbate depressive feelings.

People with severe depression have had difficulty understanding and managing their emotions. Research also shows that depressive symptoms are more common in people with lesser AE, even if they are not clinically depressed.

2. See situations as a challenge

If we are able to recognize negative emotions in ourselves and see challenges in difficult situations – focus on positive emotions and persevere – we will most likely have high employment insurance.

For a moment, imagine that your work is in danger; Well, given this professional uncertainty, an emotionally intelligent person may perceive an increase in his anxiety and stop worrying and start coping with this situation (note that just remove the "pre" prefix to start mentally manage anxiety); In this case, your IE would help you solve your anxiety and overcome this challenge.

However, if I had a small IS, in the same situation, I could start to ruminate on their professional uncertainty, to begin a spiral of desperation, constant worry until it 's time. they fall into depression.

3. Change your emotions

Of course, there are times when emotions can take the best of ourselves, but if you are an emotionally intelligent person, it is likely that when that happens, you have the skills to control yourself.

For example, in the previous case of anxiety in the face of occupational uncertainty, if a moderately low level of anxiety can improve cognitive performance, increase concentration and motivation to cope with this situation, a very high level of anxiety low would not help to motivate and a high level of anxiety would prevent us from staying focused on constant worry.

It can be helpful to know the adaptive value of moderate and low levels of anxiety to meet the challenges of life. So, if you can change your anxiety by bringing it up to moderate levels, you will know that you are more likely to face the situation that has generated uncertainty.

Emotionally intelligent people know that they must regulate the level of activation of their emotions appropriately. For this reason, it has been shown that an adequate EI is linked to lower anxiety levels.

4. Put yourself in the other's shoes

If you are able to extend these skills beyond your personal functioning, this is another sign that you have a highly developed emotional intelligence.

EI can be particularly important in positions that require intense "emotional work", such as customer service, professional performance in which workers must manage their emotions and those of their customers in accordance with the standards of the company. # 39; company. Although, sometimes, a disappointed customer yells at them.

For this reason, training in emotional intelligence in the workplace is now commonplace.

EI's most effective training focuses on managing and expressing emotions, which are directly related to good work performance and better communication with clients and colleagues.

It should also be noted that IE is a cognitive skill that can be improved throughout the life cycle.

So, if you think you have none of these four abilities, do not be afraid because you still have time to work and develop your emotional intelligence.

* This article was published in The Conversation. Click here to read Click here to read the original version. José M. Mestre is Professor of Emotion and Motivation at the University of Cadiz, Spain. Kimberly A. Barchard is an Associate Professor of Quantitative Psychology at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas, United States.