The moving letter from the father of a two-year-old trans boy: “I’m proud he knows who he is”

The words of Matthew Stubbings, dad of one of the youngest known transgender children in the UK, went viral in the last few hours. In a social media post, the man was surprised to say his son told him he didn’t feel like a girl when he was only two years old. “I’m proud that you know who you are and that he does not feel persecuted by social norms and prejudices, ”he said.

Stubbings and his wife Klara Jeynes, the two 44-year-olds from Doncaster had twins. Of the two who were assigned the female sex at birth, he quickly defined himself with a different gender identity and became the UK’s smallest trans boy.

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According to his father, at 18 months old he has already given indications that he doesn’t want to be a girl and that he hated things associated with the feminine. Since then, the family felt that she could present gender dysphoria, that is, the feeling of discomfort or anguish that appears in people whose gender identity differs from the sex assigned at birth.

Among other things, she hated to tie her hair and wear dresses and shoes. At two and a half, Stubbings told the Daily mail, expressed directly that She didn’t feel like a baby, but like a baby. He and his wife immediately agreed Stormy, the name he chose, although they also worried because not everyone around him respected him and even a lot of people insisted on seeing him as a girl.

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For this reason, the man wrote a letter which he shared via LinkedIn and which generated a great impact. “He’s one of my kids, a bright, happy boy who loves his life,” Stubbings wrote. “I’m so proud that he knows who he is and that he doesn’t feel haunted by social norms and prejudices. We can all learn something from this little boy and I do it every day. Everyone is different, ”he added.

“Accepting people for who they are is the only way to promote innovation, grow and benefit from the best of everyone ”, concluded. Her father said new challenges will come soon for Stormy, who is now four years old, as the school year begins in September and they fear there are issues with using the bathrooms or changing rooms. .

In addition, the management of the institution forced them to register Stormy under her old name, which is not a very good precedent. His parents visited a clinic for reassign sex, But the medical team suggested waiting until the baby is 10 years old or puberty begins.

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