The protected witness betrayed by a policeman: when the children tell the truth and reveal the infidelity

Claudio Belizan, the protected witness in the case of "Mafia de la Aduana", accused Martín Vilca, the policeman who had to take care of him, to have bad with his partner. The man had to change his home for a hotel when he entered the protection program, but he discovered that his partner had cheated on him through his 4 year old son. "Martín went to bed" the baby told him and there was no turning back.

Beyond the sordid that this situation probably has, for the judicial and police variables that she has, I can say that one of the cruelest things that we can say to a boy is that belies his perceptions . In other words, when you can not trust your own perception because it is denied by others – or because the perception involves something threatening if you see something like "witness in danger" – you feel threatened by the consequences of dangerousness. .

The danger can come from an act of violence or the loss of a love. The boy suffers a lot and that deforms his growth psychological, emotional and moral.

Boys are very afraid of the loss of love and if there is extortion, which many parents unfortunately use, they feel vulnerable and are even able to deny their own perceptions. It also means losing interest in oneself and starting to play to adapt to the circumstances in a climate of threats, and not to see things as they are and as parents helping to organize perception.

In the event that parents deny or challenge the child to see what he sees, a situation of extreme psychological violence is generated . Boys have a strong loyalty to their parents. In this sense, in this line of cruelty, when both majors ask for loyalty to the son but shoot for another side, the child feels a great tear that makes him suffer a lot because he can not choose both in same time.

This occurs in situations of extreme pathology, but also in situations of greater "normality" because these are systems that many parents use to gain political support from the child. It is also used so that the boy does not denounce with his simple words any situation that he wants to hide.