Dominique Gardner told the writer Jim DeRogatis that she had been hurt by critics that she should have expressed herself against Kelly or addressed the authorities as a result of the Lifetime docuseries .
"Surviving R. Kelly" has chronicled decades of allegations of sexual misconduct and abuse against the singer due to his relationships with girls and young women.
Gardner appears in the documentary, but does not speak with the filmmakers on camera and is not part of the charges.
DeRogatis is one of the first journalists to have covered the charges against Kelly.
He and Abdon M. Pallasch published their first report in the Chicago Sun-Times about allegations that Kelly had sex with girls as young as 15 in 2000.
According to "Surviving R. Kelly", Gardner first met the singer in 2009, when she was 17 years old.
Gardner had made a friendship with fellow "superfan" Jerhonda Pace, who had put her in touch with Kelly.
Pace appeared in the docuseries, accusing Kelly of having an inappropriate relationship with her when she was a teenager and mistreating her.
Kelly has always denied any allegation of wrongdoing and abuse.
The singer was indicted last month under 10 counts of aggravated sexual assault – a class 2 crime – involving four alleged victims.
The indictment charges Kelly with sexual acts with three children over the age of 13 but under the age of 17. The age of one of the alleged victims is not indicated, but the prosecutor stated that she was 24 years old at the time of the alleged offenses. The charges say that Kelly resorted to force or the threat of force against her.
He was acquitted of child pornography charges in 2008.
The latest charges against the singer extend from 1998 to 2010, according to state attorney Cook County in Illinois, Kim Foxx.
Gardner's mother, Michelle Kramer, appeared in "Surviving R. Kelly".
She is shown tracking her daughter in a Los Angeles hotel after TMZ posted a video showing Gardner and another woman, Joycelyn Savage, doing their shopping.
Savage's parents claimed to believe that Kelly was controlling their daughter.
Kramer was seen trying to convince his daughter to sneak out of the hotel where they rushed to a waiting vehicle and left.
Savage and another friend of Kelly, Azriel Clary, appeared last week in an interview with CBS to defend and support the singer.
In a bonus clip of the docuseries, Kramer said that his daughter had received a call from Kelly, with whom she had been in a relationship for nine years, saying that he wanted to see Gardner.
Gardner came back after only three days at home.
The young woman said Kelly was controlling.
"I could not even drink without her permission," she said. "I'm an adult woman, and I have to ask you if I want a drink, all you do, you have to ask him."
Gardner also alleged in the New Yorker interview that there were "consequences" to disobey Kelly.
She told the New Yorker that the consequences were spanking, slapping, beating and blowing with an extension.
But she refused to describe the situation in which she was living with other women with Kelly's "sect" and also rejected the term "brainwashing".
"I would not even say" mind games. "It's just the fact that he tried to break me," she said. "I could not be broken, he wanted control over me, and I would not give him that power, so he said," If I do not give her food, she'll come back. "No, I'd rather die than come and give you my soul."
However, Gardner said: Kelly is also a "donor, because when everything that separated us from him was good – oh, my God, it was perfect." But as soon as he gets angry, he gets turns into a person like, oh, what's up, the new Rob. "
She also said that she did not want to see him imprisoned.
"I think that he should be under house arrest in a studio, because, as I said, his music allows him to go through situations, to experience what he's going through," he said. said Gardner. "In prison, No. He needs a 24-hour therapist at home."
When asked to comment on Gardner's interview, Steve Greenberg – a singer's lawyer – told CNN in an email: "Mr. Kelly wishes the best for Ms. Gardner."