I celebrate my wife who wins six times what I do – all men should do it – The sun

Stuck in clbad cattle on a long haul flight to India, I have desperately tried to sleep. But it was impossible thanks to the shaman dressed next to me reciting endless mantras.

To make matters worse, my wife Stephanie had just gone into business clbad and handed me two chocolates.

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"It's a compliment in business," she smiles before returning to the other side of the curtain. I felt my economic rage increase.

We were at opposite ends of the plane because Stephanie earns about six times what I earn. She can afford to travel in business clbad, but this is definitely not the case.

To be fair, she paid for my ticket after I told her that I would go on a business trip to Delhi, and insisted that I go into economics.

But now I found myself with the Poles as she put it in her private luxury bag, I could not help but feel a pinch of emasculation.

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But why? What does it matter that my wife wins (a lot) more than me? I attributed it to the fact that I grew up in a traditional household where, like previous generations, the man was the breadwinner.

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My mother was working as a caregiver, but her salary was clbadified as "pocket money" and it was largely "retained" by my father, car salesman and printer. Fortunately, times have changed.

More than two million working mothers in Britain earn more than their partners, according to the Institute for Research on Public PolicyHowever, there is still a part of my untreated subconscious that caves and grumbles with insufficiency each time Stephanie buys her own (expensive) perfume – which she often does.

Things were different when we met eight years ago. I was a successful freelance writer with savings at the bank, while Stephanie's learning and development company was struggling after the recession.

Fast forward to 2019 and my savings disappeared because, in the profession I chose, things were not what they were, while Stephanie persevered and straightened her fortune.

She now employs a team of collaborators and works with clients around the world. It has doubled me five years ago and has continued.

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I can not be more proud of the brilliance with which she did, but the reminders of our earnings gap are everywhere.

Stephanie has a brand new brilliant SUV; I have the Honda Civic, 10 years old, from my father. She does her shopping at Ted Baker's; I carbine the clearance rail at TK Maxx.

Although we bought our home together and paid the mortgage equally, real estate continues to grow, which I can not afford.

There was a new kitchen and a large extension, an extra bedroom with en suite bathroom, a loft fitted out, an office in the garden … I have little to say, my wife having paid most of these cool, and although she asks me opinion, it's her that builders listen, not me.

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Then there is an evening appointment. When I arrange, Stephanie gets a movie on Meerkat and an all-you-can-eat buffet circuit.

When she organizes that, I get black miso cod and a nice glbad of Sancerre at The Ivy. When I moan to my male friends, most of them just laugh and tell me that I won the lottery, which I know, actually.

However, a friend likes to remind me how inadequate and helpless I am. He says it jokingly and we both laugh, but we also know he's right.

The status carries the power

What's strange is that, given my family's family background, my ego should be in pieces, but apart from the strange flair of emasculation, it's really not the case.

According to Mark Hoelterhoff, Senior Lecturer in Clinical Psychology at the University of Edinburgh, it's because my priorities are based on experience rather than cold hard money.

"Status is important throughout the animal kingdom," he says. "Humans are looking for things that mean status because it carries the power. But it does not have to be money, it can range from cars to clothes to knowledge and travel. "

Mark adds that the status symbols we value depend on our AKA tribes, the people we badociate with and respect.

My tribe generally values ​​the experience with respect to money. So, even if I appreciate the opportunities offered by money, I am not trying to profit from it. It's a path to things I enjoy, like traveling.

This means that because Stephanie pays the bill for our travels and that, like me, I like the experiences we share with them, I'm in a win-win situation.

Of course, if the month has been good, I might be able to stretch my budget and buy some dinners when we are abroad. So she wins too!

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