"She raped me, I'm a woman" – Scary stories of 4 Ghanaian women

General News of Saturday, April 13, 2019

Source: www.ghanaweb.com

2019-04-13

bad is a bitter pill that no woman or man would want to experiment with.

A number of women on the streets of Ghana have experienced some form of badual abuse. Although men are also raped, there is evidence that women most often experience multiple forms of badual abuse.

In 2014, the Domestic Violence and Police Support Unit in Ghana recorded 290 cases of rape and 1,111 cases of abuse, in which the majority of victims were women.

About six women are at risk of being raped every week, revealed six-year statistics from the Ghana Police Service's Domestic Violence and Victim Support Unit (DOVVSU).

On the contrary, only one man is likely to be raped each year during the same period.

The data, which cover the years 2011 to 2016, also show that more women continue to be victims of rape and badault and that only a few of the victims are men.

A survey conducted by Mumsnet.com, a website for parents, found that the majority of women who were raped or badually badaulted did not report the crime to the police in many cases because they had little faith that their abuser would be safe. brought to justice.

Beverly Engel is a psychotherapist and author of more than 20 self-help books, including an upcoming book on survivor badual badault. She added that shame and self-blame are the main reasons why victims of aggression do not report these crimes.

"Victims are often ashamed to come forward." Sexual badault is a very humiliating and dehumanizing act against someone who really feels invaded and defiled, which causes a lot of shame, "Engel told ABC. News.

She added, "This shame is linked to a lot of personal reproaches. Victims of badual badault almost always blame themselves, and we can understand why, because in our culture we tend to blame victims in general. should not have worn this kind of outfit, she would not have drunk so much, why did she go to this party? We find a reason to blame the victim. "

Abena Magis, a popular influencer in social media, in her latest news titled "She raped me, I am a woman" has become a huge discussion on Facebook.

A number of Ghanaian women confided in Abena Magis, explaining how they were raped by their fellow citizens provided they were anonymous.

Read their stories below:

She beat me, I am a woman

1.

There is this pub in which I like to go, where I met different men. Not only do I want to meet guys for something, but they come there often. My single room is small and if there is dum ll, jump into the pub to relax and drink a few beers. There was a lady who came with 2 girls. They will smoke (both) but this one did not make it a day when she came to sit at my usual place. I arrived and she was there. I went to say hello and go to another place but she reminded me … we chatted a bit and her friends came … she went to see them and came back and we continued chatting. I learned where she was staying … what she was doing … she is a model and has a child a boy … who is with the grandmother to be able to continue her career in modeling . I went to the restroom and came back looking for the cold beer that she ordered me. Abena, after a while, I could not see anything. I woke up and I was in a hotel room. It was after 2am. I felt different. I was wet but no sperm or smell like that. I had to greet myself so I said oh it's nothing but I did not know how I got there. I asked the guy at the front desk and he told me that my sister had taken me there.

I never saw her again at the pub, but a few months later, someone said that a girl had put a Spanish fly in her drinks and had slept with her. I do not know how but I paid attention by going to the pubs. I do not know if she did it to me but I want you to share so people know about pls. Maybe it'll help somebody. Thank you.

2

Aunt Abena, I feel strange to say that, but I must. I do not know any other description, but I have been raped by a woman. My colleague. I was raped by a woman? I still can not believe it. Me who all I need to do is call any guy from my contacts that I'm excited to come. My aunt they will come here. They will run. My colleague was all at work. Our work is very intense and if you do not have anyone to help you in your tasks, this can affect you because we are paid at the hour and you will not get any bonus if your work is missing. She covers me from my shifts and my self whenever she needs to rest or do something.

I celebrated my birthday, I said, it's been a long time since I was doing something nice for me, let me cook and invite colleagues. They were 10 years old and she was part of it. She helped me cook and was my help. I was so happy so I told everyone that, oh, that's my best friend, oh. My aunt, the party is over and everyone is gone, but she said that she was waiting for her guy to choose her. The first time we heard this, we screwed up and went to bathe. She served me wine from the last bottle on my return. My aunt a few minutes later, I do not know. As if something was sitting on me, I could not move. I could not speak but I could see and she was holding me and kissing me. Aunt I'm not lying that I could not do anything.

It was as if something black was blocking my eyes and I could not see. She touched me like a guy. I even thought I had to dream but I did not wake up. I do not know how I could sleep like this. Then I woke up. I confronted her at work and she told me that she thought I was in love with her. Listen to that, oh. I asked him if you think someone is in love with you, why do not you ask me? And did she hear me talk about lesbobo? I even thought that she was using juju and I wanted to break it. I wanted to know what it was but she did not tell me. I've talked to another colleague who was talking about it, but I did not mention my name, it's up to me that this girl did the business. The girl called me so angry that why I want to destroy her name blah blah and I asked her to tell me what she did to me. She did not want to say, and then finally she told me that it's something you use to weaken people. She knew I would not agree, that's why she did that to me. My aunt I got her fired herself, but people suspect what she did me. Yes. It's bad. I am not a lesbobo and I swear I will never be, but that's what my own colleague did me.

3. Abena, I was then 18 years old and my school mom too …

I started school late, but because of my little body, people did not know it. I was raped by my uncle at the age of 10 and it hurt me. I did not like boys in my clbad but my school mother and I became close. I told her and she started sleeping with me on my bed. We covered the bottom with a rag and we will be well inside. We will talk and fall asleep. I woke up one day and she sucked on my chest. I told her that I did not like that and she said that she would call another elderly person (we all feared her and with her it was clear that she was bad) for that She's coming to do things to me. She then pushed a first game, where you pushed me but it was painful. She stopped when I started crying. I did not want to go to the dorm the next day, but when another girl came to call me, this elder A (bad) called me and I was scared. Abena, I had to do everything my school mom said because Senior A was very fat and sometimes slapped the juniors if she did not like them. My school mom protected me from her and that's how I became a bad.

4

Abena, I do not know if it's a rape, but it's my last name that introduced me, but that's the only one. I am married now. I was 16 years old and very helpful to the church. She is interested in me and told me to help her at home. I washed for her and her pastor and also cooked. She bought this bra and panties for me and told me to wear them for her. She kept touching me and when I said that I did not like it, she said that someone had to learn to satisfy a man so that she was a man. I should do what a woman will do and learn because of that because I am a virgin and no one will learn me. She had Abena dildos and, until I left for college, we were like lovers. She did not want me to go to the university that I chose because she was saying that it was far from her, but that 's it. College that I dreamed of dating since the age of 10. I met my first boyfriend there and that was all.

Oh, I met her every time I left, but I attended a different church when I was in school, so when I went home, I always went to their branch. I will see her get into her car and one day she told me to call or visit her, but I do not know. I did not feel like it so I never went there. I never said that to my husband. I do not know how he will feel. I do not like friends because I do not want to do it again. Thank you.