Where is William H. Macy in the university admissions scandal?

OPINION: All the women I met this week about the recent university admissions scandal asked where William H. Macy was.

Why was the husband of Felicity Huffman, an equally famous actor, not also accused of attempting to bribe and cheat the way of his children to college? Why were there so many stupid puns about him? Desperate housewife, And almost not about him Shameless?

Why was it mentioned in the affidavit simply as "SPOUSE"?

"Oh, I bet I know why," sighed a friend, currently mired in the applications of her own children. "It's because mothers have to do everything, including organizing crime."

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Macy, for what it's worth, actually seemed to be a very involved parent.

In recorded calls, it is SPOUSE who indicated that her child needed fairly high scores for Georgetown. The SPOUSE stated that the child would have better results if the family was able to complete a two-day SAT trial period, usually for students with learning disabilities.

In the end, the couple did not swindle this child, their youngest daughter, which could have protected Macy.

In the charges related to their eldest daughter – a ringtone would have been paid $ 15,000 to take the SAT on her behalf – only Huffman's voice is heard during the recorded call.

And so, People magazine has titled the inept title: "William H. Macy is 69 when his wife, Felicity Huffman, is arrested in a scam at university admissions".

Thus, Radar published an anonymous source article in which a family friend said that Macy "did not know the details, but he knew that she was trying to do something." It was not fully aware of his plans. "

In truth, I do not know what is the worst case scenario for Macy: whether he was happily participating in an alleged illegal conspiracy, or participating briskly in a full phone call in which the so-called illegal plot was hatched and apparently did not know which no matter who, including himself, spoke.

I do not think it's fair to say that this scandal is a badist problem – a problem in which women have to endure even criminal emotional work.

Many men have been indicted in the scam, which the FBI calls "Operation Varsity Blues". Mossimo Giannuli, that is to say Mr. Lori Loughlin, was extremely devoted in his paternal intrigues. He was the main contact by e-mail. it was he who was sending photos of his daughter on an ergonomic machine to support the lie that she had rowed.

The most vindictive line of the indictment comes from a father – New York attorney Gordon Caplan – who tells on the phone a witness: "To be honest, I do not worry about the moral issue. "

But, I think it's fair to say if gender plays a role in this saga.

If we see the despair of mothers differently from the despair of dads.

Did B-Lister's photo Lori Loughlin have a lot more stories about the scandal than pictures of her resoundingly successful designer husband?

Huffman & # 39; s Housewives The character has spent an episode trying to corrupt his twins in a private school, BuzzFeed points out (for $ 15,000 – did Huffman know it was the prevailing rate?), And the story continues, Of course, he would do the same in real life.

In terms of indignation, the Varsity Blues affidavit reveals more blatant sins than those committed by Huffman.

For example, she did not pay $ 500,000 and Photoshop her daughter in a water polo uniform. But in terms of moral dissonance, Felicity Huffman is the most surprising villain and one whose motivations I continue to try to motivate.

While other celebrities have launched lifestyle brands dedicated to jade eggs (Gwyneth Paltrow) or yoga pants sculpting the bad (Kate Hudson), Huffman has created the What The Flicka website, dedicated to parenting. More specifically, be a mom. More precisely, to be a real imperfect mother, who knows herself well.

WhatTheFlicka.com offers sardonic coffee mugs and wine Wednesdays, as well as scented candles bearing names such as "Juice Cleanse" and that have a smell of "greenery, mint and regret". Articles on parenting have titles such as "10 ways I completely screw up my kids" and "10 reasons to fear the summer with kids" and "9 ways parenting is like Game of thrones. "

In other words, the site adheres to the theory of child parenting.

Parenting is impossible, and going to bed without becoming an alcoholic is a great reason to reward yourself with a martini. We are all a mess!

In the spirit of Felicity, did she do anything that goes against her theory of motherhood or was the alleged scam an extension of it? Was buying her children's way to school a twisted and privileged version of, ladies, upright, sometimes we serve icing for dinner and sometimes we bribe Georgetown?

"Ruh Ro!" she happily wrote in an email to her contact in the scam. "Looks like [my daughter’s high school] wants to provide his own supervisor. "

It was a problem to solve, practically and without much difficulty.

All the women I chatted with this week, at least those who read the affidavit in its entirety, mentioned this impudent and shameless phrase.

Because in the middle of the applications of their own children and their own work-life imbalance, and their own parenting partners who sometimes recoiled in the distance – SPOUSE !! – This line threw something into a quick relief. It was a joke thing to be a bad mother. It was another one to be one.