6 REASONS TO: Resist through his phone

We have an innate tendency to be curious, and this is not quite a bad thing.

Without curiosity, learning would never happen to learn new things. The media – print, broadcast and digital – would become obsolete.

If it was not out of curiosity, would you be keen to know if indeed Beyoncé and Jay-Z are on baby number four? If you made a mental note to google if Beyoncé is pregnant, then my point is at home.

We are a curious lot that is not discouraged to dig for juicy details, even in the face of threatening expressions such as: cat. After all, we are not cats.

That said, curiosity is a double-edged sword that cuts deeply. Like fire, he is a good servant, but a terrible master.

When you master your curiosity and use it to learn, explore, discover, and improve within limits, it can take you to great heights.

Problems arise when curiosity takes you captive and you can not control your actions. You start poking about everything – emails from other people at your neighbors' house. Some people go as far as becoming voyeurs.

This toxic curiosity when it is drawn into relationships is what drives us to spy on our partners. We begin to follow each of their movements and pile up their phone pbadwords.

Going through your partner's phone is rather useless and here are my reasons:

1. This is intrusive. Mobile phone designers in their wisdom incorporated pbadwords to protect the privacy of the user. His phone is a safe space for him to keep track of the intricate details of his life.

It probably has applications that help to manage confidential information about health, money, schedules and so on. Accessing this information without his consent, that is simply ignoring his privacy.

Second, and this requires a reality check on your part, he has other people in his life next to you. Her colleagues, friends, acquaintances and family members, including women, are an integral part of her life.

Conversations shared with these people do not concern you. If they did, he would have formed a WhatsApp group for all his contacts and then you would have added.

2. This compromises trust in the relationship. Everything is nice and fun to play Nancy Drew until he discovers. Then you will really want the field to open and swallow you.

If he can not trust you to respect his privacy, then who should say with what he can trust you? Can he trust you not to pinch some notes from his wallet? Can he trust you not to hire private investigators to follow each of his movements?

Pbad his phone and get caught while you are made of you the untrustworthy in the relationship, good intentions apart.

3. This could open a Pandora's box in your relationship. You can not predict the type of information you will encounter on his phone. Sometimes the phone does not have much to do for the Candy Crush app, some SMS from Safaricom and a handful of contacts.

This can be rebaduring or arouse more suspicion when one wonders where he is hiding his other phone – the "real one". Other times, the phone reveals information that changes life that you are not psychologically ready to handle. It could be information that it holds until it prepares you for it or finds a professional who can mitigate the blow when it reveals the ## 147 ## # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # 39; information. It can even be information that can end the relationship.

And sometimes, a perfect surprise is ruined just because you can not keep your fingers itchy from his phone.

4. This is an indicator of deeper underlying problems in the relationship. When the urge to quickly get through his phone while he sings in the shower, take a break and examine your real intention of wanting to poke around.

Has his behavior changed lately? Do you think he's cheating on you? Do you think that he spends too much money for his family? Do you feel that he deliberately ignores your text messages?

Whatever the case may be, the phone will not answer your questions. It's only a gadget. Talk to your man and let him rest your concerns. If you must actually go through his phone, do it together.

And if he refuses to let us go through his phone, ask yourself? Look at the girl, he's your man, you'll know what to do then.

5. This leads to feelings of guilt and shame. Imagine going through his phone and finding nothing incriminating. You rush over WhatsApp's cats and find this text flirts with an emoji:

"I was thinking of you, you were so bady in a suit today."

This is from Stacy from HR. When Stacy HR hits you then you know you're done because, to whom will you file your badual harbadment complaint?

Be that as it may, your heart beats when you scroll through its answer:

Stacy for the compliment, we have such a good professional relationship and I would not want to spoil it. "

You put the phone back to where it was while guilt hugged your heart like a hot rod of metal." You realize that it was useless and stupid to 39: Spy on such a good guy.

6. It's a highly addictive and toxic behavior. Once you've started, it's a slippery slope down … down … to forget A glance will not be enough

When you do not find anything incriminating, you will continue to check that it is always behaving correctly

You will stay up to date with the latest spy bugs and crash it on his phone … You will become obsessed with reading his messages as I read Jackson Biko every week

Then one day he will summon you and place a little familiar bug on the table.You will recognize the bug because you planted it v Even with pain in his eyes, he will look into your eyes and ask you, "why?"