PLAIN TRUTH: Let's stop raising our kids for marriage

Do not you hate talking about the plight of the little Kenyan boy as an instinctive reaction? We do not pay much attention until a woman or girl excels at something. It is at this moment that we will ask, "And the boy? What's happening to him? "

I also hate how these conversations almost always end up in wedding conversations." But now we have all these powerful girls, the boys have been mastered. Who will marry these women? "You will hear again and again, and in this tone that suggests that marriage is the ultimate goal of life – that if it's done for the boy or the girl, then the marriages of the future are Sentenced Before anyone throws stones, let me say that marriage and family are important, but I think we should stop raising our sons and daughters for marriage. [19659004] I think it's unfair that the next generation through life for the sole purpose of becoming spouses. And if that does not happen to them, does anything that someone else has made of their life will not count?

We seem to forget that marriage is a team sport You could be the most pleasant and temperate person, your aunts could have started to train you when you were 12 years old, but unless the other party with you also plays ball, then it will not work.Is not unjust to set a person's worth or measure Is their success using something that is not entirely under their control?

How about preparing your child for life? Equip them to be well adjusted adults? In this way, they will be well prepared to make the different choices that life will give them. Marriage may or may not be one of these choices, but if they are prepared for life, they will automatically become good partners.

There is no better way to do it than by the example. By modeling what a happy and well-adjusted adult looks like. Do not become one of those men who pays a fortune to take his daughter to school and who shouts loudly for her, but who will not lift a finger to help babysit at home. If you are, then your daughter is more likely to be that uncertain woman who is happy to serve her tea colleagues at office meetings than she is likely to be in. Assertive who leaves his maternal instincts at the door on Monday morning.

And if you want to do something for the boy, do something for him now. Do not wait until a girl has excelled in something.