5 things to avoid to tell an anxious person

The French channel Cbad-France published a report in which it presented five sentences to avoid for a person suffering from anxiety, as well as positive advice that would help him overcome his situation.

The site, in its report translated by "Arab"Anxiety badociated with feelings that are difficult to understand and live at the same time Thinking of helping someone with an anxiety disorder, you may find that you are simply degrading yourself.

The site indicated, in the first place, that the person concerned should not be seized of concerns such as "relax a little". This is not an option, let alone a difficult situation to eliminate. In fact, anxiety is a widespread mental illness that affects about 12% of Canadians. There are no magic ways to erase all traces, and anxiety often escapes you. Certainly, solving this problem goes beyond simple relaxation.

Secondly, it is advisable to avoid saying "this problem is the frame of your imagination" to someone who is concerned. And the state of anxiety and the effects of moral, physical and relational. Sometimes the discomfort of an anxious person can not be easily explained, which is difficult to find the right words to express.

Third, the statement that "your concern about this is ridiculous" is one of the words that should not be said to an anxious person. This comment may reflect an underestimate of a person's concerns. The reason for his concern may seem trivial for him, but that does not necessarily apply to him, because the reactions vary from person to person. One does not have to judge others because the anxiety feeling of one person that the other does not understand or will not listen to will lead to the isolation of self and deepening his torment.

Fourth, the site emphasized the need not to utter the words "you pay too much and waste your time". Anxiety can not be controlled, which can sometimes turn into a panic attack. However, everyone is developing ways to better manage this situation. An anxious person must have the support and confidence to express their most serious feelings, as they do not need to hear negative comments frequently. To get better, you have to tell him his positive qualities.

The site highlighted, fifth, the importance of stopping the order of the anxious person to "get rid of anxiety". Things will be very easy if they work well, but overcoming anxiety is really very complicated because it is a difficult process that requires a lot of effort and an almost constant struggle for not being able to control you. If you tell the person that she has to "override" the case, it's a disregard for her condition, just as if you were telling her that "if you lean a little bit, you can go beyond this concern ".

The site offered positive suggestions that could help an anxious person recover from his condition, such as saying "you're next to him". We sometimes tend to talk a lot to hide our feelings of distress. It may be right to be next to the person and listen to rebaduring and sufficient. Also, remind him what he did last time to overcome this situation because it is positive and useful.

The site has indicated that you can advise them to dedicate time to breathing because the 4-7-8 breathing technique helps them overcome this situation. The technique is inhalation (for four seconds), breathing (for seven seconds) and expiration (for eight seconds). You can suggest changing places. If you have a panic attack, ask the person if they want to change places to feel better. On some occasions, he can be helped by a simple touch, for example by holding his hand, touching his arm or hugging him to overcome this illness.

Finally, he advised the site to inform the person that "despite the difficult situation in which he lives, he will be able to overcome." The sentence confirms that you understand his emotions because it is very difficult to cross the state of anxiety. But you must prove to him that you have confidence in his abilities to overcome this situation. You can remind him that this situation will not last long and will be overcome as he has done in the past. Tell him you'll be next to him to discuss when he's ready.