Erica Jennings has aired an open letter to the public: Does this support patience with children? No doubt!

We expect them to respect others. We also expect them to do housework, adopt good manners, be good and empathic. In addition, they will respect each other. And by the way, quite often, and so sincerely, people notice that our kids are very polite. However, this good practice began to be launched early in childhood.

It does not matter if you teach your children to be good and polite, if you do not behave. It is very important to educate children to monitor themselves and their behavior. The children follow the example. However, at the same time, do not understand me badly. Our children are not muwli. They will be able to express my opinion boldly and engage in another self expression. They are fun and fun, they often speak loudly and come into play with energy balls.

These cute and affectionate boys play rugby, learn the capoeira dance – I have no doubt to defend myself in the fight. However, for them to engage in violence, something extreme must happen, because they are taught that violence is the lowest form of communication.

I will never hurt my children, either physically or verbally. I do not ask them to obey me. I will not be afraid to hit if I do not do it right. I have friends who have always been beaten, who get caught up. Some of them, even now, say "I probably deserve it." However, we all know that such reflection is only a way to reconcile and live further.

It's easy to beat children and manage homes based on fear. However, this behavior permanently interrupts any relationship with the child. He will love you all the time, but you will always be afraid. You will not hide it.

So, instead of "letting our kids behave properly", there are other methods. Of course, they require a lot more attention and patience, but it's really profitable. For example, my kids know that they have to do the housework and work after themselves because we understand our family as a small community. If someone prepares a meal, the other pours the dishes and the rest records everything and cleans it. Our family is a mini version of the world. And, by the way, for my household, my children do not get money!

Maneuvers – who are they? Good manners are used by children today and will be even more beneficial in the future if new people are accepted. Like the fact that they already know how to spit their clothes. O respect Why do they always have to respect what I tell them? They can chat with me, but they know it with respect. My duty is to explain to them what is good and what is wrong. This place is very important, not only for the WHO, but also for the information of children.

Violence breeds trust. We have an agreement with our children – tell the truth and have no reprimands or fines. Even though I am very angry, I want to know the truth. Only then can I always trust my child and they know it. Are you mad at them? Of course! Lose patience? No doubt! Do I shout at them? Sometimes Are my children afraid of me? No They are starting to feel sorry and overwhelmed by the fact that I am sad and disappointed in their behavior. Sometimes I apologize to them, sometimes it's me. However, we never boast and weigh the words of each other.

So, what types of abusive forms do we use for bad behavior in our family? We deprive them of certain privileges. They can watch movies or play compilation games, but not more than 30 minutes. per day This is not their right. It is their privilege, which of them, if necessary, is subtracted. But they have the right to be loved and to be respected. They have the right to be protected. They have the right to think that homes are their safe space and that their parents are always nearby.

Unlike some recent statements, I certainly know that it is possible to grow brave, strong, decent and hardworking children without resorting to violence and without being afraid of them.