For adolescents only (-18 years) lengthening or shaving .. the “hair” of young children is “sanity”

“Fashion every year” .. is always the cause of problems and crises between young people and their parents, “youth rebellion” and “parental authority” can have a great psychological impact on adolescents, the fashion of this year in “hair” .. girls prefer hair It is quite short and boys tend to leave the hair “free” over its entire length, or “knees” as it was called in the seventies of the last century.

According to Dr Ibrahim Magdy Hussein, psychiatrist and neuroscientist, many parents wonder how to treat their children in this case, especially since they consider that these “stories” are outside the traditions and customs with which they have been. high, and this is considered a “flaw”, but what parents need to know is that the teenager by nature wants to rebel, try everything again, keep up or follow the lead of her favorite star, and having parents in control of her appearance or her hairstyle is unnecessary, and is considered to interfere with her life and the simplest decisions.

Hussein told “Your Health in the World” that the teenager sees that he has the right to choose in the simplest things, which are his clothes and his appearance, and it may seem simple, but that brings us to the idea of ​​generational conflict, the lack of dialogue between parents and children and the spread of an authoritarian and authoritarian education, stressing that parents must first know the models of education before controlling the choices of their children, otherwise they will create a “mentally ill” generation.

Hussein added, “The models of education are divided into 3 types: the first is (authoritarian education) and is based on the granting of absolute authority to parents, who follow the use of firmness in the education of children, while leaving very little space for dialogue and negotiation. , with the frequent use of punishments of various kinds. Often, those who follow this educational model are less affectionate and sympathetic to their children, and the effect of this educational model on children is that they associate success and obedience with love, which affects their relationships with them. others in the future, and some children behave hostile outside the home, so they may become ‘bullies’, some of them show shyness and fear when they are with others, and some of them develop low self-confidence, face difficulties in their social life due to a lack of social skills, and tend to obey and obey easily, which causes anxiety and depression, in addition to the fact that they suffer from difficulty controlling themselves, as they are not given power and control in many cases when they are young

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He continued: “At the same time, experts stress the need for firmness and presence and respect for boundaries and rules, but without the harshness of an authoritarian education, which has many negative effects on the mental health of people. children and their healthy emotional development. ” Hussein pointed out that the second type is (permissive education), which allows children to do what they love, while providing a minimum level of guidance. Parents who take this educational approach to raising their children are characterized by being closer to their children’s friends than parents, but they do not change their children’s behavior or value them, and tend to leave their children behind. children solve their problems on their own, and there is a high degree of dialogue and communication between them, but they leave the decisions to the children and give them none. They have a high degree of sympathy and affection, so they do not apply any punishment, and there is very little consequence if their children misbehave.

The psychiatrist explained that the impact of permissive education on children is that the level of performance and achievement of children who are raised in this way is generally low in various areas, and they often make bad decisions. It is strange that children are violent towards others, and they lack empathy, because they do not process emotionally active emotions during their upbringing, and they are more likely to fail academically, professionally and social.

He pointed out that the third type is (moderate education), and of course it is the best among educational models, and is based on encouraging children to express themselves and be independent in decision-making. , with clear instructions from parents, and these children become more confident in themselves and appreciate healthy and mature social skills and emotions.

Magdy Hussein stressed the need for parents to follow the “method of understanding in moderation” with their teenage children, when discussing the fashion crisis and raising or cutting their hair, and opening the door to the fashion industry. discussion and accept some of the changes they want in their children’s form even if it is against their will. He pointed out that there is no effect on the health of the hair due to its falling or cutting, and the most important thing is to take care of it.

The psychiatrist gave the example of an incident that happened to him personally and tells it to parents who complain to him about their children, namely that his father shaved his hair “Zero” at the age of thirteen because he shaved his hair, like the late artist Ahmed Zaki at the time, who was called “Caboria”, and it’s a famous English poetry story, and his father berated him daily, and at that time “Hussein” felt very oppressed, and every time he went to the barber he would ask him for a traditional story in order to avoid confronting his father, contrary to his mother’s relationship with him, who assured him that the “story” did not suit him. He could have chosen a different “story”, “and Kappa bought him a” famous brand, “which made him” psychologically balanced. “