Distance love relationship: we can get closer as we move away

Relationships are no longer affected solely by society's pressures.

In times of economic hardship, behind a job or studies outside of the motherland, the two people are separated and face many challenges, including obtaining a visa to visit, sometimes impossible to obtain, as well as the time difference that sometimes makes communication more difficult. Internet is bad in some countries and others block a number of social networking applications. The BBC Arabic blog asked young men and women to write about the romantic relationships they have known. Iman Khattab, 30, from Egypt, recounted what she experienced after meeting a young man in London, getting married and then becoming both in a country.

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Sunday 18h. A short message was sent in a hurry.

To answer it, you need to follow three steps: Check my schedule, check how much Internet data is on my phone, and most importantly, take a quick look at the clock to see the time difference between us.

18 hours means 22 hours. Four hours separate us.

I did not know that jet lag could control many things in my life before that day. As a journalist, I usually choose the right time to call a guest on the phone, for example, but I have not imagined that all the events associated with my emotional life would be subject to a difference of time.

Today, we are ending the first year of our acquaintance. I met him in the fall of 2017, I had just completed a master's degree in economic journalism at the University of London. As a girl coming from the east, I was looking for warmth in this cold country. My love for everything around me was the source of my energy: my love for a cup of coffee, for leaves scattered on an old garden bench and even for a squirrel jumping happily to hunt for a nut.

I left Egypt to study and I was not sure if my heart had shared my trip or if I wanted to stay: it was the first time I was traveling alone, without family or companion. I've always wanted independence but I did not know how this independence could be.

I was in a new country, Britain, and I had embarked on a journey to find a new home for my heart and body, just as my mind was looking for stability, my heart l? was. For the first time, my heart is in agreement with my mind and it can be a three-year emotional experience that has exhausted all my energy.

We met at a ceremony for photographers and painters at his university, and I am a photography enthusiast. I wanted her day not to see the news in this area. Arrived more than I imagined. We met, exchanged conversations about our common passion and before we all started in a numbering dialing situation. For the first time, I am red and panties and I give my digital to this young Irishman. We exchanged the numbers and left.

Everything happened so fast that my story became a rare subject at every girls' session, until I lost it. It was said that girls would say, "How did you make such a difficult decision in a short time?", "Do they really like it?" Brikst (breaking Britain with the EU) could it change the course of this story?

I returned to Egypt and continued our communication online, but he understood that our relationship would gradually disappear and he decided to take a serious step in our relationship. A few weeks before the beginning of 2018, almost three months after our acquaintance, we celebrated our wedding.

We agreed to get married in Egypt to share this moment with my family and close friends, but unfortunately his family could not be with us in Cairo because of his holidays and other complications. We had planned to move to Britain, where he worked and lived for more than 17 years. A few weeks after our wedding, I was offered an offer of employment in the United Arab Emirates.

This approach did not seem difficult at first, but on the contrary, we were delighted because my transition in Britain seemed difficult and would take a lot of time in routine procedures.

Life has turned us into emails that gnaw on feelings and meanings. What a quarrel we have between the misunderstanding of the word I did not mean what he understood. I remember once having failed to update one of our applications (called Bootem, one of the most used internet calling applications in the UAE). I did not receive his messages. I thought so that he was trying to ignore his messages.

I was spending his holidays alone, he was supposed to come to Dubai but he could not get leave. Another vacation goes alone because my holidays were canceled at the last minute.

We are both helpless in front of something born and fight for our survival.

My mother repeats on the phone every time she talks to me to reassure me: "My daughter, out of sight, away from the heart." I defend it firmly and convince myself: "We can get closer by moving away."

The pioneers of distance relationships are losing a lot.

They lose the "vases": every moment that passes – sweet or old – can not be shared by the other when they occur. We all share everything through a glass screen. Telemedicine is so far away. If you are sick, advise me to take it until my health improves, but my heart beats and I do it alone after the fever has prevented me from moving.

They lose the "sense of participation": I sit alone at the dinner table, a cup of coffee in the morning and a toothbrush in the bathroom.

"I can not expect a romantic surprise because even if it finishes early and takes the first flight, it will take at least eight hours to surprise me.

But on the other hand, there is no more room in my life for planning this relationship, there is no fixed system. She answered the most important question: "Why do I need a partner in life?"