Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith detail the ups and downs of their 20-year-old marriage

That's sure to say Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith had their fair share of ups and downs.

On this week episode of Talk Red TableWill and Jada detail the real struggles they faced during their nearly 21 years of marriage.

From the day they met on the set of Different worldWill said that he "knew that there was in our energy something magical." But fate had different plans for Will and Jada, as Smith revealed, "I went to Different world to meet Jada but met Sheree[[[[Sheree Zampino]and ended up marrying Sheree and having Trey with Sheree. "

The two would continue to see each other as friends over the years and, according to Will, "Whenever we saw each other, it was always a beautiful energy."

Despite their connection, Jada and Will did not pursue any relationship until he divorced, as Jada clearly explained when she looked at the camera and said, "We did not have any liaison during her marriage, let's be clear about this. "

Nevertheless, Will said that he realized that he could not deny the feeling that "I was not with the person I was supposed to be with."

This epiphany caused trouble for Smith, one night in particular coming to mind. "I was sitting in a restaurant shop and I cried uncontrollably, then I laughed saying," What they can not do with me "… I knew it was wife [Jada] I was supposed to be with, but I never divorced. I will not divorce, "he said.

And while he "would never have initiated a divorce, Sheree did not feel the same way. He laughed saying, "Sheree asked for a divorce on Valentine's Day, I was like" Ouch "and I always said no, you can not divorce."

Finally, after her divorce with Sheree had been finalized, Will picked up the phone and called Jada. "I said:" Aye Jada, what's up? It's Will. " She's like, "Hey, how are you?" I said, "Well, do you see anyone?", She said, "Uh no." I said "Cool, you see me now." "

In response, Jada joked, "My silly ass was like," Ok! "

At that time, she was moving to Baltimore to live her dream of living on a farm, but instead returned to Los Angeles to be with Will. And while my daughter Willow Smith think it's a little sad that his mother has never achieved his goal, Jada does not regret anything. "It does not matter because I've had it! Everything is going for a reason," Jada assured.

Then, after only two years of dating, Jada became pregnant. "I knew the moment following the act that I was pregnant in. The moment I knew that night and he did not believe me, but I knew," revealed Jada.

In the end, both married, although Jada said that she "never wanted to get married". According to Will, "We got married only because Gammy was crying."

Then came the wedding day and the bride and groom were completely miserable. Jada said that she "cried all the way."

"I never really agree with the concept, I have never done it, I still do not," she said. "Until death separates us is real for me.It's just all the rules because of this title" woman "."

And in one of their first real fights as a married couple, Will set the tone for how their fights would unfold over the years, after Jada ordered Will to "Shut up!"

He explained: "I grew up in a house where I watched my father hit my mother in the face and I would not create a house, nor space, nor interact with a person where he There are blasphemies and violence If you talk to me like that, we can not be together We will not use any profanation in our actions, we will not raise our voice, we will not be violent I can not do it I said, "Go out, she said to herself," So, wait, are you going to break up with me after a few words? "I thought," Yes, I just did it. "His eyes swelled and she was like, "Ok."

Thus, for the next 20 or so years, they never spoke with blasphemy or anger. "Really, you do not communicate when you talk to yourself angrily." What I understood was that you beat someone you say you like, "Jada said.

Then, at some point in their relationship, Will said, "There was a period during which Mom woke up and cried 45 days in a row, I started keeping a diary. "

He realized: "I was failing miserably, but on the outside, I was winning … I had the impression that I wanted to project our relationship, family, my wife, what are children, what we are in the world. "

Then he began to feel that Jada was "sacrificing himself to match my picture". Even their children noticed, to the point where Willow, aged nine, told her: "Is not it sad? Dad has in mind a picture of a family and this is not it. not us."

Jada said that she had reached her boiling point when she was 40 years old. "I was as if I was fed up," she revealed.

Their conversation ends there, but the family resumes its speech during the episode next week.