CARDIAC COUNCIL: Will distance end my relationship?

Q: My one year old man is about to study abroad on another continent. We love each other very much. In the last year, we spent most of our time together. I do not know how I will survive while he's gone. He will only be gone for a year, but I hear a lot of people saying that long distance relationships are doomed.

Should I break up with him and let him know that when he comes back, we'll see if we're always interested in each other? If not, how can we make our long distance relationship successful? I appreciate any advice.

The thought of breaking up with your man simply because he's going to be gone for studies should not cross your mind. Having lived for a year means that you both know each other, you know what makes you move and the level of trust you have for each other. It is therefore important to maintain open communication with him without listening to what others say about long-distance relationships. There may be other underlying challenges that arise from distance, but it's only you two who know how you will manage them based on your level of mutual understanding.

constant communication, trust and loyalty. His trip to another continent for a year should not be the reason for your breakup if you really love each other. True love conquers everything, moves the mountains and crosses the oceans. You are lucky to have social media applications that will facilitate voice and video calls. The only secret is, ensure constant communication and continue to ignite your love. Good luck

Calvin Queens, email

I think it's unfair to take what people say as the truth of the gospel. All remote relationships fail. Your man will be away for only one year, which is not long enough to cause a breakup, especially since you love yourself a lot. Unless you have other reasons that you have not disclosed, I suggest you wait for it but continue to communicate. Ask yourself how you want him to treat you were the one who was traveling.

Talk to your man and share your fears about the distance relationship. You should not break a relationship because your man will be away for a year. Remote relationships can work; It all depends on how you perceive it.

Dennis Kangwana, by email

Maurice Matheka, a relationship consultant answers:

The truth is that love between two people is never guaranteed to survive; however, I would advise you to maintain your relationship despite the fact that it travels and you make sure to maintain a healthy and non-confrontational communication. Keep constant communication to feed your link, but avoid investigative conversations that reflect insecurities. This is one of the reasons why intercity relations collapse, when one party feels obliged to explain each of his actions. Trust one another and think of a mutual pact where if things do not work for you, you disclose and break them without hard feelings.

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